The Importance of Sex and Relationships

Though most people have an exaggerated opinion on the importance of sex in a relationship, the fact of the matter is: Sex is only as important as your partner makes it. This may come as a surprise to most readers but let me explain.


Before you are able to fully commit to ANY relationship, you have to be fully aware of your personal needs. If you are a insatiable sexual person, then it would not be in your best interest to try to commit to the "Caged Conservative. Just like the key to making a relationship work (Communication), Sex is the key to making it last.

First off , there should be a clear understanding as to how often you will be having sex. This does not mean take out a calendar and pencil in your mate, but it does mean an estimate of how many times a week/day would not hurt. Now, if you are a busy power couple like Beyonce and Jay-z or Will and Jada then a calendar probably would probably be more your speed. Pressuring your mate to have sex could be as potentially dangerous to the relationship as not having sex at all.

Second, how freaky you are going to be with your mate should be determined within the FIRST week of consensual sexual intercourse. Boundaries need to be expressed verbally. The conversation of "How I like my sex" may be an uncomfortable conversation to have , but the conversation of "Why she is not calling you" may be worse.

An easy way to tip-toe around the subject,and get the same response would be to take your mate shopping. You can start out slow with a Victoria Secrets or maybe Bath and Body Works, but nothing gets an answer out quicker than Premier Adult Factory Outlet or Fairvilla. Simply seeing the toys, costumes, magazines, and books is enough to bring out any question that you and your mate might have about each other.

Finally, Don't have angry sex. Sounds shocking, and bewildering to a few, but makes perfect since when it comes to relationships and longevity. Sex does not solve emotional problems, it only solves your bodies physical craving and your minds Lust for a physical connection. Sex will soothe the mind, and rid your body of built up anxiety but it will not solve the issue at hand. After you are done sweating and moaning there will still be a money, commitment, or friendship problem that will stem back to the miscommunication that was patched back together by sex.

So though you may think sex is the most important, or you may think sex can wait. However, its the act of unconsciously submitting to your partners needs while still satisfying your own that makes a relationship work.