This tongue:Can split ur pride just like it will split your legs if in perfect sight.It will murder and ego just like it can murder a fold in sheet...crease.This tongue can ruin ur life while fucking ur wife, bringing strife is just life but i dont just spit sex... i spit spite. My emotions may not be right but they are MINE I never forget #fuk a rewind. This time is mine, and now more than #This tongue will shine :)
You thought:That since i say nothing i was weak. But the problem is you #DIDNTthink. I dont have to voice my history for you to believe me. You cant rely on what you see b/c you dont see me. So make sure the next time you speak speak carefully, I dont take lightly to Demeaning me.
Lies: How do the taste? Are they bitter rollin off your tongue onto the next persons face? Do they seem to multiply just so you can find your way back from space? Or lets just make this a drug case... See, More than manipulation, my vengence is gassed from determination, and my demonstration will be hell's sole celebration. Take my Soul im waiting....
Blind: in the since that my anger has produced vengence, and in this very instance i have separated from common sense. Because i know more than i believe a woman should speak of , i am a child of ignorance and and coulnt possibly keep up. Choices make your path in life not your friends, and #NOTHING you can tell me can make my soul give in.
HATE: is satan in his spiritual since. It can occupy your mind and turn blood to ice in an instant. Its how you loan out your soul for and IOU to hells picket fence. And it can be passed around like a plate of biscuits.
Friday, April 15, 2011
Monday, December 27, 2010
TOP 10 STATEMENTS OF 2010 ....ACCORDING TO VORACIOUS
The Top 10 Statements in 2010... According to Voracious Sin
10. "These niggas so "fictatious" !!!" - Yung Smiley 9."Keep it up and I will take your soul" -V sin Roberts
8. "Hey look Ta, no pants... I said look Ta No pants!!!" -Siaire Roberts
7.Fighting for peace is like fucking for virginity. -Natasha SixxNine Smith
6."The SHIT you let come out of your mouth" -Armani Carti'ay
5."Waking up giving God all the praise, for if it was not for him nothing would be possible....NOW to go smoke this Kush and get my day started! " - Jyce Carti'ay
4."Yeah I smashed the homies! And I'll do it again!!" - Kbee (Kiara Barthalemeu)
3. "Ima tip you bitch, and its gone look like I'm making it rain....but you just know I am counting out my 1's and I want $7 back after this show!! - Alexis Presley
2. "Yeah I said i'd fuck you! Thats no secret! I Fuck Studs!!!! You know how you looked w/ that bikini top on at the beach!!! -Siaire Roberts.
1. "AND WHO GONE CHECK ME??? NOT YOU!!" - Community
Monday, October 4, 2010
To Mistake Kindness for "Lesbian"
To be "nice" is human. To be "polite" is courteous. And to be "compromising" is to be "understanding" . ALL of these traits we share just like we ALL bleed red. Mistaking kindness for weakness is a phrase coined, however usually its "Mistaking kindness for lesbian".
There seems to be a common misconception around the Heterosexual community that leads them to believe that because you are a Lesbian, you MUST want every female that crosses your path. It sometimes gets as ignorant as the cashier noticing your rainbow keychain at the grocery store, or the fellow shopper who pulls their daughter closer as they see you and your mate approaching.
Though the Sunglasses of society may have blinded them on the preferences and lifestyles outside their own, the ignorance in the action is that they do not even try to find the truth behind their "self-taught" morals. According to the 2010 U.S. Census the number of Lesbian/bi/Gay has increased almost 3x's since 1990. So what does that tell you?? It tells me that whether or not you "approve" of it, your daughter, niece, aunt, or mother may have either crossed the road or peered to the other side.
True enough, it may not be common in all circles to have a "Same-Sex" partner , but in contrast it is common to have RESPECT for others whether or not you share the same views. I have provided a few scenarios that are common to the Lesbian community but may be "un-conscious" or "consciously ignorant" depending on the party. Please understand in ALL these situations the common misconception is "because I am gay, and you have the gender of my preference, I want you."
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1. While having a family get together your brother shows up with his new wife. After greeting the family on her arrival , she sits in the ONLY available empty seat which so happens to be on the couch next to you. You scoot over to give her room and offer her a drink. She politely accepts and proceeds to continue conversation until your brother jokingly states "Honey do not get to close to that one, I've already made claim!" . She laughs lightly, but you can tell she realizes the situation. Conversation from then on is brought to a minimum one word answers and no eye contact. When you sit back down she moves and goes outside for a cigarette.
Did you do something to disrespect your brothers Fiance??
2. You start a new job and go through orientation. You and the others in your class are doing warm up activities to get to know eachother. You quickly become acquainted with the woman next to you once you realize you have the same hometown and went to the same high school. When asked about your marital status you reply "single" but she very quickly notice a ring on your finger. You reply that you are "committed" and feel her discomfort. You smile and politely change conversation. The next day you come in to work to realize that your co-worker is now sitting in a group with/ other fellow co-workers who appear to be staring at you. Even though you know why you pretend it doesn't faze you and continue your day. to realize that you would not be talking to ANY of them until graduation.
Were you trying to "hook-up" on the job? Or did you SPECIFICALLY state you were committed???
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It seems that even though the "common excuse" for people to act this way is because they are ignorant on the culture/lifestyle as a whole, However, the common argument or disrespectful action is "She was trying to holla at me" or "she came on to me."
Passing the spoon is not the same as getting "spooned" but in the mind of a Heterosexual, you may have just asked her on a date! So lets be aware that just because we are surrounded by ignorance does not mean that we have to drown in it. Your Lifejacket is your "maturity" and to your rescue will be your "sanity".
To move forward, ignorance is contagious. The lesbian community is Tripling by the century. One aggressive action does not pacify another and communication, demonstration, and overall education can bring resistance to this common misconception of preference.
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
The Beat (Short Story- Fiction)
The Beat
(Short Story)

There it goes again.....
A steady tempo starting from the seat of my pants and throbbing up through my veins. My mind is starting to water and I cant help but stare. As the beat starts to echo in my ear drums I find my self clenching my thighs together. "Why does she do this to me?" I whisper to myself watching as My best friend's girlfriend bends over to get me the baking pots out the shelf. "Huh?" She yells stretching further in. "Nothing." I said giggling , now slowly rubbing my thighs together to create just enough friction to silence the beat, but not enough to release Hoover Dam.
This is not the first time that the drums of my Pussy have sounded off louder than the breath that leaves my lips, nor will it be that last. As if I am coming to the climax in my favorite love song, It seems every time I am put in a sexually ambiguous situation my Symphony roars louder than Ann Arbor Orchestra. My palms start to itch, forcing me to vigorously stroke them as if grooming a stallion in a stable. I wish I knew how to silence the Beat.
"Any situation is a compromising situation." I chant to myself as I walk out to my car. Florida heat had begin to rise to the early 100's and I couldn't afford to ruin another cell phone. As I pull open the heavy Jeep doors and search the seat for phone, I immediately jumped as I felt my handset vibrate in between my fingers. "Shit! only a text message!" A small thought of just taking my receiver, pushing the volume button all the way down, and spreading my garden for a test-run, brushed across my mind. Then suddenly... Just as my teeth started to bruise my bottom lip, Sy ( My best-friend's gorgeous roommate) pulled up in the parking space next to me. She glanced over and gave me a soft smile and proceeded to step out of her brand new, money green Dodge Magnum.
Damn, Just the car itself started the palpations in my [now slightly damp] lace Victoria Secrets. She stepped out in a pair of shiny, black Guess stilettos and a Mid thigh, strap-less, one piece skirt. I swore to myself I would nibble an accessory if she came close enough! Starting to hear oscillating drum once again louder than my own thoughts, I decided to break the glance. "Always a pleasure to see you Ms. Sy." I said with a piercing grin. It was like she was waiting for me to speak because I soon as her name left my bottom lip she turned around and leaned back against her door frame. "Always a pleasure to be in your presence." She responded. At this point I knew she could possibly be mines .. but only in my dreams have I taken her soul in the drivers seat of her car with her moans louder than the HEMI of the Magnum. "And why would that be?" I said with sarcastic connotation. That one remark would change.... my ....life. Ms. Sy replies: "Because you can sell pussy to a kitty cat, Milk to a cow, Water to a well."
This was my chance! For at least 3 years I have been trying to at least grace the sheets of Syla Williams. I couldn't let this opportunity pass! Even if I only got a chance to rub my hand up the hip that stopped beautifully at the cup of her ass, it would be the Chance of a lifetime!. THUD! THUD! THUD! She beating so loud I'm scared to speak out in fear of yelling at the person standing less than 3 feet away!
"OH yeah?" I reply, trying not to sound to surprised that she noticed. She rolled her eyes as if to read my deceit. "Well, if that is that case you may as well know that since you pulled up, my heart has been beating to Lil John and Ludacris!" I said giggling a little. I mean, Why not make a joke out of my circumstance. She didn't know it was the truth. She laughed, and I took the opportunity. I closed the passenger door of my car and walked up on her as if I was going to kiss her. I wrapped my right and around her waist, brushed the fingertips of my left hand up her thigh and whispered: "If you can feel my heart beat, then you already know what I'm thinking." I could tell she was caught off guard, but for some reason she didn't try to resist. She lifted her chin slightly , as if to catch a kiss I tossed and hadn't recovered yet. I gently pressed my cheek against hers, careful to not free my lips and caressed her frame. "If you have wanted me all this time, like I have wanted you, Then let me in....now." The final syllable of my sentence shook in my heart as she gently spread her legs just enough for my hand to slip through her skirt. THUMP! THUMP! Louder and Louder my pussy beats through my pin- striped pants. Somehow I found the courage to slip my hands passed her satin and up through the side of her panties.She inhales deep and I started to thrust my fingers. I press my body against hers to gently lay her on her front seat. Just as she started to leak down my wrist, and shake to the rhythm of my pussy percussion a loud shriek is heard through the parking lot. "Are you SERIOUS V!!!" My best friends girlfriend stood on the sidewalk in front of our parked cars. How did we get so caught up in each other that we didn't see or hear her coming??? Because we were cumming! Hard, fast, and powerful. "I've been yelling DINNER for the past 15 minutes!!!" She yelled. Sy lifted up, gently pulled down her skirt, then ingested my index and middle finger. My Knees shook.
"I'm not hungry Sis!" I managed to bellow. "I bet your aren't! Sy get your fast ass in the house!" She said sarcastically. I lifted up, adjusted my clothes and gave enough room for Sy to get out the car. She walked in front of me just enough so that I could see her ass shaking through the skirt with each step. Throbbing my clitteris seamed captivated at the pace. Making music in between the creases of my pants with each stride. "Can you hear that? " I spoke out to her. She turned around with a mischievous grin. "Here What?" She asked. "The Beat." I replied.
(Short Story)

There it goes again.....
A steady tempo starting from the seat of my pants and throbbing up through my veins. My mind is starting to water and I cant help but stare. As the beat starts to echo in my ear drums I find my self clenching my thighs together. "Why does she do this to me?" I whisper to myself watching as My best friend's girlfriend bends over to get me the baking pots out the shelf. "Huh?" She yells stretching further in. "Nothing." I said giggling , now slowly rubbing my thighs together to create just enough friction to silence the beat, but not enough to release Hoover Dam.
This is not the first time that the drums of my Pussy have sounded off louder than the breath that leaves my lips, nor will it be that last. As if I am coming to the climax in my favorite love song, It seems every time I am put in a sexually ambiguous situation my Symphony roars louder than Ann Arbor Orchestra. My palms start to itch, forcing me to vigorously stroke them as if grooming a stallion in a stable. I wish I knew how to silence the Beat.
"Any situation is a compromising situation." I chant to myself as I walk out to my car. Florida heat had begin to rise to the early 100's and I couldn't afford to ruin another cell phone. As I pull open the heavy Jeep doors and search the seat for phone, I immediately jumped as I felt my handset vibrate in between my fingers. "Shit! only a text message!" A small thought of just taking my receiver, pushing the volume button all the way down, and spreading my garden for a test-run, brushed across my mind. Then suddenly... Just as my teeth started to bruise my bottom lip, Sy ( My best-friend's gorgeous roommate) pulled up in the parking space next to me. She glanced over and gave me a soft smile and proceeded to step out of her brand new, money green Dodge Magnum.
Damn, Just the car itself started the palpations in my [now slightly damp] lace Victoria Secrets. She stepped out in a pair of shiny, black Guess stilettos and a Mid thigh, strap-less, one piece skirt. I swore to myself I would nibble an accessory if she came close enough! Starting to hear oscillating drum once again louder than my own thoughts, I decided to break the glance. "Always a pleasure to see you Ms. Sy." I said with a piercing grin. It was like she was waiting for me to speak because I soon as her name left my bottom lip she turned around and leaned back against her door frame. "Always a pleasure to be in your presence." She responded. At this point I knew she could possibly be mines .. but only in my dreams have I taken her soul in the drivers seat of her car with her moans louder than the HEMI of the Magnum. "And why would that be?" I said with sarcastic connotation. That one remark would change.... my ....life. Ms. Sy replies: "Because you can sell pussy to a kitty cat, Milk to a cow, Water to a well."
This was my chance! For at least 3 years I have been trying to at least grace the sheets of Syla Williams. I couldn't let this opportunity pass! Even if I only got a chance to rub my hand up the hip that stopped beautifully at the cup of her ass, it would be the Chance of a lifetime!. THUD! THUD! THUD! She beating so loud I'm scared to speak out in fear of yelling at the person standing less than 3 feet away!
"OH yeah?" I reply, trying not to sound to surprised that she noticed. She rolled her eyes as if to read my deceit. "Well, if that is that case you may as well know that since you pulled up, my heart has been beating to Lil John and Ludacris!" I said giggling a little. I mean, Why not make a joke out of my circumstance. She didn't know it was the truth. She laughed, and I took the opportunity. I closed the passenger door of my car and walked up on her as if I was going to kiss her. I wrapped my right and around her waist, brushed the fingertips of my left hand up her thigh and whispered: "If you can feel my heart beat, then you already know what I'm thinking." I could tell she was caught off guard, but for some reason she didn't try to resist. She lifted her chin slightly , as if to catch a kiss I tossed and hadn't recovered yet. I gently pressed my cheek against hers, careful to not free my lips and caressed her frame. "If you have wanted me all this time, like I have wanted you, Then let me in....now." The final syllable of my sentence shook in my heart as she gently spread her legs just enough for my hand to slip through her skirt. THUMP! THUMP! Louder and Louder my pussy beats through my pin- striped pants. Somehow I found the courage to slip my hands passed her satin and up through the side of her panties.She inhales deep and I started to thrust my fingers. I press my body against hers to gently lay her on her front seat. Just as she started to leak down my wrist, and shake to the rhythm of my pussy percussion a loud shriek is heard through the parking lot. "Are you SERIOUS V!!!" My best friends girlfriend stood on the sidewalk in front of our parked cars. How did we get so caught up in each other that we didn't see or hear her coming??? Because we were cumming! Hard, fast, and powerful. "I've been yelling DINNER for the past 15 minutes!!!" She yelled. Sy lifted up, gently pulled down her skirt, then ingested my index and middle finger. My Knees shook.
"I'm not hungry Sis!" I managed to bellow. "I bet your aren't! Sy get your fast ass in the house!" She said sarcastically. I lifted up, adjusted my clothes and gave enough room for Sy to get out the car. She walked in front of me just enough so that I could see her ass shaking through the skirt with each step. Throbbing my clitteris seamed captivated at the pace. Making music in between the creases of my pants with each stride. "Can you hear that? " I spoke out to her. She turned around with a mischievous grin. "Here What?" She asked. "The Beat." I replied.
Thursday, September 2, 2010
Still in Love W/ You
I'M STILL IN LOVE W/ YOU
On the Contrary to what songs and Literary works have lead you to believe, to be STILL in love is a little deeper the anticipating you leaving me. Its a little deeper than the make believe. Its... Just on the other side of the drama filled seperation where are hearts have lost past dedication, where loves have walked out of heavens doors and made this title out of despiration, I will give birth to an anticipation of love w/o intentional termination. Because after all this time... IM STILL IN LOVE W/ YOU.
I dont see simple disagreements through the sunglasses of achievements. With a path less taken indeed this , bereavment was needed. Driving over simple drama filled road kill to the path of Ultimate satisafaction. Longevity seems sexy in contrast to human reaction to the simple fact that.... Monogomy is not a disease. In someone like me that takes such pride in not having an STD , why would you add more conditions to your sexual disability? Why would you not take the time to love all of you so could be set free? Well that is what you did for me.... IM STILL IN LOVE W/ YOU.
I'll go ahead and clear up the misconception. That has you captivated by some type of newly wed deception. This affection is not new nor is it a secret. The media knows it to be true 11 years still squeaking. For every sickness, low time, and parts that needed tweekin I believe in... US. I believe that this time that is passing by is only making deeper roots in our trust. I believe a rewind is not needed in this lifetime because to love is not to give in to lust. Honey, after all this time, I am STILL IN LOVE W/ US!.
Monday, July 26, 2010
Complacent vs. Content
Complacent Vs. Content
Lesbians tend to fall into pattern after being w/ the same lover for more than 1 year (8 months if you want to consider my immediate circle). This pattern consists of the everyday errand/work schedule that makes the two women co-dependant upon each other. These activities start to slowly play its toll on the weekly "hanging out" or "spontaneous" activities that took place before things started getting serious. These roles may also make it easy for one or both partners to start moving away from what they Love to do and move more towards what is more "practical" to do. Companionship becomes more important than individuality and family and/or relationship values start to fester in with thoughts of what is and isnt acceptable.
Somewhere in this tornado, waiting to be turned into a hurricane (that will uproot any solid ground and cause mass evacuation), there is a since of self that has become buried or that has been set free. It is up to the woman to decide. Any feelings of Regret, resent, disrespect, or defeat should not be glorified for being one step closer to what a previous lover was not. Your satisfaction should lay within what you've gotten past, but push towards what you aspire to reach. Are you now seeing the best of you, or not seeing yourself at all?
Becoming complacent can lead to a number of relationship problems such as emotional and/or physical abuse or infidelity. Noah's Arc (logo channel) coined the fraze best when they described a complacent relationship as "bored and jaded".
Since it has been brought to my immediate attention that most Women loose the ability to catch themselves when they fall into this dark ebiss selflessness and acceptance, I have formed a list of things to ask yourself, or your partner to see where you to fall. Are you two TRULY content in your relationship, or have you become complacent in your current circumstance?
*please feel free to add, comment, and email your additional questions and opinions.
1) You come home from a long days work, the only think you can think about when you come through the door is kicking off your shoes and heading to the shower. Dinner is cooked as usual and smells great! Do you:
a)Breeze by, She knows the routine. You can discuss the menu and days events after you shower.
b)Walk in throw your bags down. Make sure you comment on how great it looks/taste nomatter whether or not you decide to eat, and then rush to the shower.
c)Why did she cook? You already picked up Popeyes!
2)On a conversational level you and your mate seem to have it together. However in an argument you:
a)Get your point across nomatter what is going on or who is watching b/c she shouldnt have started w/ you anyway.
b)Let her have her moment. I mean who cares who's right or wrong an argument is just a disagreement right???
c)Hide, you didnt mean to start this argument to begin with , so might as well find a corner.
3)All of your friends have decided to go to Vegas for the week. You can schedule the day off , however your mate doesnt like crowds and can be anti-social at times. U :
a)Are so excited you schedule the week off w/o consulting with your mate and book the trip. I mean, its just a week she'll understand right??
b)Ask your mate what she thinks. If she doesnt want to go you and your friends could still have the vacation for a lifetime.
c)Tell your friends by the end of the convo all the reasons why you couldnt go, leaving your mate to the last reason b/c you already know that she will say no.
4)You get a phone call from your boss for an excellent new job opportunity. You have been looking for advancement in the company for a while and now is your chance. You:
a)Turn down the opportunity b/c it conflict with your mates work schedule and she wouldnt like that.
b)Take the opportunity and plan the ULTIMATE family event so that you can break the news and brainstorm on new ways to take advantage of your off days
c)Tell your boss that you cant take the opportunity for a number of reasons. Never ask your mate, (whats the point), and go home and sulk about what could have been.
5)You win a contest and get to pick your dream vacation! U:
a)Pick what your mate wants. That would make the Perfect vacation for you two right?
b)You and your mate pick a neutral place, one you both like. After pricing the tickets you both work out a master plan to get atleast one other friend and their mate to come too.Group Vacations are the best!
c)Go pick up your tickets and only tell the person who you want to go with you on the trip ( your bestie ) , and come up with a story to tell your mate and other friends about a family emergency so noone gets jealous.
Think that was easy???
Well, here is the break down.
3+ A's =
You seem to be complacent with waht makes the family works, and what your mate needs. However you are not even thinking or taking in consideration what you need for yourself. You may have a functional relationship but are you truly happy?? Do you know what you want, who you are, or what makes you tick? Do you know what you would do if somebody else "more exciting" was to walk by? (*answer that one carefully, the end result may be the answer to your future)
3+ B's =
You seem to have the relationship thing down. It seems hard to balance between your happiness and your partners, but as long as you keep trying to atleast incorporate each others needs into your daily activities you should be fine. Keep all lines of communication open. You seem to be content w/ being in a relationship and carrying out your everday activities. As long as you continue to evenly balance yourself as an individual and yourself w/ your partner, being Content will be second nature.
3+ C's =
You are Content with being yourself and Complacent in your relationship status. You are okay with making decisions and carrying on life as if noone else (including your mate) matters. As long as your mate excepts this you will stay Complacent in your relationship. You may be Content with what this person lets you do, but who is spending all this time w/ you if they are not? Who are you confiding in if you are not confiding in your partner? When you partner does not want to reached who are you touching? The gap may be confortable space for the two of you but may be a harmful wall to your relationship. Is your happiness more important than your mates? How does she feel about that? Do you Care?
Break even?
- B's and A's/C's: Needs work, but atleast you are trying. Make a balance between each others needs seperately AND as a whole.
- C's and B's: Complacent, and either selfish or selfless. I'm sure these two individuals know which end of the spectrum they sit on, so my advise is to meet somewhere in the middle or call it quits. Ms. Right may not be Ms. Right Now.
Lesbians tend to fall into pattern after being w/ the same lover for more than 1 year (8 months if you want to consider my immediate circle). This pattern consists of the everyday errand/work schedule that makes the two women co-dependant upon each other. These activities start to slowly play its toll on the weekly "hanging out" or "spontaneous" activities that took place before things started getting serious. These roles may also make it easy for one or both partners to start moving away from what they Love to do and move more towards what is more "practical" to do. Companionship becomes more important than individuality and family and/or relationship values start to fester in with thoughts of what is and isnt acceptable.
Somewhere in this tornado, waiting to be turned into a hurricane (that will uproot any solid ground and cause mass evacuation), there is a since of self that has become buried or that has been set free. It is up to the woman to decide. Any feelings of Regret, resent, disrespect, or defeat should not be glorified for being one step closer to what a previous lover was not. Your satisfaction should lay within what you've gotten past, but push towards what you aspire to reach. Are you now seeing the best of you, or not seeing yourself at all?
Becoming complacent can lead to a number of relationship problems such as emotional and/or physical abuse or infidelity. Noah's Arc (logo channel) coined the fraze best when they described a complacent relationship as "bored and jaded".
Since it has been brought to my immediate attention that most Women loose the ability to catch themselves when they fall into this dark ebiss selflessness and acceptance, I have formed a list of things to ask yourself, or your partner to see where you to fall. Are you two TRULY content in your relationship, or have you become complacent in your current circumstance?
*please feel free to add, comment, and email your additional questions and opinions.
1) You come home from a long days work, the only think you can think about when you come through the door is kicking off your shoes and heading to the shower. Dinner is cooked as usual and smells great! Do you:
a)Breeze by, She knows the routine. You can discuss the menu and days events after you shower.
b)Walk in throw your bags down. Make sure you comment on how great it looks/taste nomatter whether or not you decide to eat, and then rush to the shower.
c)Why did she cook? You already picked up Popeyes!
2)On a conversational level you and your mate seem to have it together. However in an argument you:
a)Get your point across nomatter what is going on or who is watching b/c she shouldnt have started w/ you anyway.
b)Let her have her moment. I mean who cares who's right or wrong an argument is just a disagreement right???
c)Hide, you didnt mean to start this argument to begin with , so might as well find a corner.
3)All of your friends have decided to go to Vegas for the week. You can schedule the day off , however your mate doesnt like crowds and can be anti-social at times. U :
a)Are so excited you schedule the week off w/o consulting with your mate and book the trip. I mean, its just a week she'll understand right??
b)Ask your mate what she thinks. If she doesnt want to go you and your friends could still have the vacation for a lifetime.
c)Tell your friends by the end of the convo all the reasons why you couldnt go, leaving your mate to the last reason b/c you already know that she will say no.
4)You get a phone call from your boss for an excellent new job opportunity. You have been looking for advancement in the company for a while and now is your chance. You:
a)Turn down the opportunity b/c it conflict with your mates work schedule and she wouldnt like that.
b)Take the opportunity and plan the ULTIMATE family event so that you can break the news and brainstorm on new ways to take advantage of your off days
c)Tell your boss that you cant take the opportunity for a number of reasons. Never ask your mate, (whats the point), and go home and sulk about what could have been.
5)You win a contest and get to pick your dream vacation! U:
a)Pick what your mate wants. That would make the Perfect vacation for you two right?
b)You and your mate pick a neutral place, one you both like. After pricing the tickets you both work out a master plan to get atleast one other friend and their mate to come too.Group Vacations are the best!
c)Go pick up your tickets and only tell the person who you want to go with you on the trip ( your bestie ) , and come up with a story to tell your mate and other friends about a family emergency so noone gets jealous.
Think that was easy???
Well, here is the break down.
3+ A's =
You seem to be complacent with waht makes the family works, and what your mate needs. However you are not even thinking or taking in consideration what you need for yourself. You may have a functional relationship but are you truly happy?? Do you know what you want, who you are, or what makes you tick? Do you know what you would do if somebody else "more exciting" was to walk by? (*answer that one carefully, the end result may be the answer to your future)
3+ B's =
You seem to have the relationship thing down. It seems hard to balance between your happiness and your partners, but as long as you keep trying to atleast incorporate each others needs into your daily activities you should be fine. Keep all lines of communication open. You seem to be content w/ being in a relationship and carrying out your everday activities. As long as you continue to evenly balance yourself as an individual and yourself w/ your partner, being Content will be second nature.
3+ C's =
You are Content with being yourself and Complacent in your relationship status. You are okay with making decisions and carrying on life as if noone else (including your mate) matters. As long as your mate excepts this you will stay Complacent in your relationship. You may be Content with what this person lets you do, but who is spending all this time w/ you if they are not? Who are you confiding in if you are not confiding in your partner? When you partner does not want to reached who are you touching? The gap may be confortable space for the two of you but may be a harmful wall to your relationship. Is your happiness more important than your mates? How does she feel about that? Do you Care?
Break even?
- B's and A's/C's: Needs work, but atleast you are trying. Make a balance between each others needs seperately AND as a whole.
- C's and B's: Complacent, and either selfish or selfless. I'm sure these two individuals know which end of the spectrum they sit on, so my advise is to meet somewhere in the middle or call it quits. Ms. Right may not be Ms. Right Now.
Monday, July 12, 2010
The Importance of Sex and Relationships
Though most people have an exaggerated opinion on the importance of sex in a relationship, the fact of the matter is: Sex is only as important as your partner makes it. This may come as a surprise to most readers but let me explain.
Before you are able to fully commit to ANY relationship, you have to be fully aware of your personal needs. If you are a insatiable sexual person, then it would not be in your best interest to try to commit to the "Caged Conservative. Just like the key to making a relationship work (Communication), Sex is the key to making it last.
First off , there should be a clear understanding as to how often you will be having sex. This does not mean take out a calendar and pencil in your mate, but it does mean an estimate of how many times a week/day would not hurt. Now, if you are a busy power couple like Beyonce and Jay-z or Will and Jada then a calendar probably would probably be more your speed. Pressuring your mate to have sex could be as potentially dangerous to the relationship as not having sex at all.
Second, how freaky you are going to be with your mate should be determined within the FIRST week of consensual sexual intercourse. Boundaries need to be expressed verbally. The conversation of "How I like my sex" may be an uncomfortable conversation to have , but the conversation of "Why she is not calling you" may be worse.
An easy way to tip-toe around the subject,and get the same response would be to take your mate shopping. You can start out slow with a Victoria Secrets or maybe Bath and Body Works, but nothing gets an answer out quicker than Premier Adult Factory Outlet or Fairvilla. Simply seeing the toys, costumes, magazines, and books is enough to bring out any question that you and your mate might have about each other.
Finally, Don't have angry sex. Sounds shocking, and bewildering to a few, but makes perfect since when it comes to relationships and longevity. Sex does not solve emotional problems, it only solves your bodies physical craving and your minds Lust for a physical connection. Sex will soothe the mind, and rid your body of built up anxiety but it will not solve the issue at hand. After you are done sweating and moaning there will still be a money, commitment, or friendship problem that will stem back to the miscommunication that was patched back together by sex.
So though you may think sex is the most important, or you may think sex can wait. However, its the act of unconsciously submitting to your partners needs while still satisfying your own that makes a relationship work.
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