To Mistake Kindness for "Lesbian"

  

      To be "nice" is human. To be "polite" is courteous. And to be "compromising" is to be "understanding" . ALL of these traits we share just like we ALL bleed red. Mistaking kindness for weakness is a phrase coined, however usually its "Mistaking kindness for lesbian".

     There seems to be a common misconception around the Heterosexual community that leads them to believe that because you are a Lesbian, you MUST want every female that crosses your path. It sometimes gets as ignorant as the cashier noticing your rainbow keychain at the grocery store, or the fellow shopper who pulls their daughter closer as they see you and your mate approaching.
     Though the Sunglasses of society may have blinded them on the preferences and lifestyles outside their own, the ignorance in the action is that they do not even try to find the truth behind their "self-taught" morals. According to the 2010 U.S. Census the number of Lesbian/bi/Gay has increased almost 3x's since 1990. So what does that tell you?? It tells me that whether or not you "approve" of it, your daughter, niece, aunt, or mother may have either crossed the road or peered to the other side.
     True enough, it may not be common in all circles to have a "Same-Sex" partner , but in contrast it is common to have RESPECT for others whether or not you share the same views. I have provided a few scenarios that are common to the Lesbian community but may be "un-conscious" or "consciously ignorant" depending on the party. Please understand in ALL these situations the common misconception is "because I am gay, and you have the gender of my preference, I want you."
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1. While having a family get together your brother shows up with his new wife. After greeting the family on her arrival , she sits in the ONLY available empty seat which so happens to be on the couch next to you. You scoot over to give her room and offer her a drink. She politely accepts and proceeds to continue conversation until your brother jokingly states "Honey do not get to close to that one, I've already made claim!" . She laughs lightly, but you can tell she realizes the situation. Conversation from then on is brought to a minimum one word answers and no eye contact. When you sit back down she moves and goes outside for a cigarette.


Did you do something to disrespect your brothers Fiance??


2. You start a new job and go through orientation. You and the others in your class are doing warm up activities to get to know eachother. You quickly become acquainted with the woman next to you once you realize you have the same hometown and went to the same high school. When asked about your marital status you reply "single" but she very quickly notice a ring on your finger. You reply that you are "committed" and feel her discomfort. You smile and politely change conversation. The next day you come in to work to realize that your co-worker is now sitting in a group with/ other fellow co-workers who appear to be staring at you. Even though you know why you pretend it doesn't faze you and continue your day. to realize that you would not be talking to ANY of them until graduation.


Were you trying to "hook-up" on the job? Or did you SPECIFICALLY state you were committed???
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     It seems that even though the "common excuse" for people to act this way is because they are ignorant on the culture/lifestyle as a whole, However, the common argument or disrespectful action is "She was trying to holla at me" or "she came on to me."
     Passing the spoon is not the same as getting "spooned" but in the mind of a Heterosexual, you may have just asked her on a date! So lets be aware that just because we are surrounded by ignorance does not mean that we have to drown in it. Your Lifejacket is your "maturity" and to your rescue will be your "sanity".
     To move forward, ignorance is contagious. The lesbian community is Tripling by the century. One aggressive action does not pacify another and communication, demonstration, and overall education can bring resistance to this common misconception of preference.